How can men last longer in bed?

Delaying this final liberation - in this case, ejaculation - is a very common desire of men all over the world, who, for various reasons, want the penetrating part of sex to last longer. In a heterosexual relationship, a key motivating factor comes down to the fairly inevitable differences between men’s and women’s physiology. In what appears to be a massive creative surveillance - or a rather cruel trick - women take about four times longer to reach orgasm through intercourse than their male partners.

Beware of the gap Statistics suggest that, on average, men enjoy about 3 minutes of penetrative sex before orgasm. Women, on the other hand, take between 10 and 20 minutes to come. When you take into account the guys’ lunch period - that post-ejaculation interlude before it gets hard again - and the potential for exasperation becomes frustrating. Worrying about not being able to keep up the distance has put pressure on men for a long time. It goes without saying that we all want our partners to share our pleasure and our highlights. But here’s the problem: having a penis doesn’t automatically change the responsibility for your orgasm and your guy’s orgasm. Shaking off this clearly wrong - albeit frustrating - assumption is the first step to enjoying the quiet road to pleasure, as opposed to a high-speed train. Yes, there they are again: trips and destinations. Start, stop, then start again Recycling physical responses with a partner takes practice. Initially, this means some one-on-one time between him and his manhood. On the whole, masturbation is a hasty affair, with one quick and clear goal: liberation. In this spirit, is it any wonder that when it comes to being intimate with another person, events can be equally, ahem, effective? This is where the start/stop method comes in. As much explanation, it implies to apply the pauses just before ejaculation, then to wait 15 seconds before starting again. A solo exercise, the thought goes, it helps the guys to develop an awareness of the signals and responses of their body. Bring this new self-awareness into the bedroom, slow down and enjoy the moment. Get technical Take your endurance training to the absolute next level by applying brand new technology that is truly cutting edge. Imagine, if you will, the best masturbation sleeve or pocket pussy on the market. Now imagine that you can program it to work exactly the way you want it to, providing just the right sensations for your personal pleasure. That in itself sounds pretty good, doesn’t it? Well, with Sextech, you’ll be able to experience incredible pleasure and learn specific data about your sexual performance. You see, Sextech items like the F1 LELOs will be able to track your performance and provide even more detailed feedback that you can then use to train your sexual responses to reach your maximum sexual capabilities.

Work those Kegels Pelvic exercises, the repeated flexing of the pelvic floor muscles to develop control and sensation, are not just for women - men can also do Kegel exercises. With no gym membership required, perfecting this key group promises guys all kinds of benefits, from fighting urinary incontinence to, you guessed it, better control of his manhood during sex. Men: To identify the precise network of muscles in question, try to stop urinating at mid-flow. Smell it? These, my friend, can help delay orgasm. Once you’ve located them, you can exercise them anywhere by contracting for a slow count of five and then releasing them, also for a slow count of five. Repeat ten times - it could be at the office, behind the wheel, anywhere - gradually increasing the duration over time. When the climax seems dangerously close, give those PC muscles a flex for a momentary delay and hopefully a little bit of composure . Finding time for foreplay For many men, the most common motivation for wanting to last longer between the sheets is their partner’s orgasm. While certainly admirable, to put things into perspective, it is estimated that only 30% of women reach their peak through penetration alone. In short, you need to keep your foreplay tight, son. We’re talking about teasing, and clitoral stimulation - be it through the tongue, finger or external sex toy - will probably bring it closer to the edge than intercourse. And, when the inevitable happens and neither party can hold on for an instant, the act of penetration becomes the vigorous cherry on top of the most delicious cake that is certainly best enjoyed together. Yummy! The Big Squeeze Advanced training for longevity in bed is all very well, but what about practical measures during the act itself? Well, men can temporarily delay their climax by applying pressure to the base of the penis. The briefly restricted blood flow has a desensitizing effect, allowing it to lower things and prolong pleasure. Admittedly, this doesn’t sound terribly sexy, but it can be - honest! It could be an intimate signal or code word between the partners to request a light pressure; or the cockrings are specially designed to offer an intermediate pressure for pleasure… Mixing things up to slow things down A one-way path to ejaculation can be slowed down by simply changing position. If it’s a missionary that is driving your mojo forward, a mid-calf doggy-style shift can do wonders. Also, some arrangements stimulate the penis more than others. As with most intimacy issues, this one is quite personal, so our best advice is practice, practice, practice! Also, varying the depth and pace of the thrusts can be just the tonic for penetration that goes all the way to the distance.

A shared problem…

Above all, and as with most things in life, when it comes to dealing with longevity between the sheets, communication between partners is essential. Maintaining erections isn’t usually something guys gossip about, you know, over a few pints in the pub, some men feel anxiously disproportionate to the idea of bringing their partner to orgasm. That in itself can have all sorts of negative implications for mental health, relationships - everything. But it’s guaranteed: solving these problems with your loved one won’t just help you find a solution; it could also open the door to a whole new journey of pleasure together.