Anal sex, tips to make it more enjoyable

Initiating Anal Sex: Receiving

When you decide that you are ready for anal sex, you need to be in control from start to finish. This means that you must make it clear that you want it, as your partner may be too uncertain to initiate it without your express permission.

“The easiest way to tell your partner that you want anal sex is to tell him or her that you want anal sex.”

Many people are not so good at picking up lost clues or reading the subtlety of your body language, so telling them directly and explicitly that you want it is the only safe approach, plus it means that you are able to talk about things like possible limits, previous experiences, etc.

Now, there are two ways to do this. You can ask your partner explicitly during sex, which many people find more comfortable and natural. However, it’s not really easy to have an in-depth conversation about the limits or reservations you might have if you’re a beginner about anal sex.

You can signal this in advance through text messages or in person, which certainly creates anticipation, but it has two possible drawbacks: firstly, you may not be in the mood when the opportunity arises, and secondly, your might think it’s all you want, so it will focus on that and leave the rest of your body wanting more.

Another approach, especially when you’re getting familiar with anal sex, is to tell your partner by showing him; start with self-stimulation (or guiding your partner’s hand) or using a small vibrator designed for anal play (i.e. has a flared base).

If you are trying to get in for the first time and your partner is not used to pushing, this is a good time to talk about how you usually have sex, and what you think might work and what might not.

Initiating anal sex: giving

Does anal sex hurt? Yes, it can. But is anal sex enjoyable? Yes, potentially. But you have to approach it… with sensitivity.

This should go without saying, but if your partner hasn’t initiated it or openly stated that he or she is willing to try anal sex, you should ask.

“In general, anal stimulation during sex can be somewhat divisive, and “not going” is not acceptable.”

So, just as above, there are several options: ask directly during intercourse or foreplay, let your partner know beforehand by texting or speaking, or show your partner what you want by paying extra attention during foreplay and assessing the reaction.

One of our favorite sexual positions for initiating anal sex is the spoon position. You are both comfortable and relaxed with all your body weight supported. Lie down and rub yourself against your partner’s anus; he or she will quickly recognize whether it’s ok or not without having to break the mood.

But remember, there are no shortcuts and nothing beats honest communication in the bedroom.

Making anal sex really enjoyable

Although there are those rare moments when, like the alignment of the stars, the mood will hit you simultaneously and you will have the most incredible and satisfying anal sex imaginable, usually some preparation is required.

Remember that if you are receiving anal sex (penetrative or oral-anal type), you must have control over it, to the extent that you wish. You will have to control the speed and he will have to listen to you, otherwise it will be uncomfortable and it will stop. The opportunity may be lost until some confidence can be regained.

Here are 4 things to try to improve anal sex.

1. Position

You already know that not all positions are created equal, so explore some of the anal sex positions that are best suited for beginners as they allow the receiver to take more control.

2. Lubricant

You probably already know that a high-quality intimate lubricant or moisturizer is essential for anal sex. More is better. The more lubricant, the more pleasurable it will be for both of you. It’s as simple as that.

3. Condoms

Condoms are great for anal sex, and not just because they make you safer sexually. Condoms improve anal sex because they are softer and respond better to lubricant than skin. Condoms slip on more easily and are therefore more comfortable. In addition, they can also prevent your partner from reaching orgasm too soon.

4. Anal sex toys

Even anal sex experts find it convenient to “warm up” for penetrative sex, so introducing anal toys such as an anal plug or vibrating prostate massager during foreplay can help ease the transition to anal sex. As a reminder, any anal toy should have a flared base to prevent it from accidentally disappearing inside you, and anything used anal should be washed or covered with a clean condom before being used in another opening.

During anal sex, try stimulating your clitoris or other erogenous zones with a vibrator while you have sex to double the intensity of the sensations and develop a truly fulfilling orgasm.

Finally, we also advise beginners to get used to the sensation with an artificial anus to last longer. Indeed, unlike vaginal sex, anal sex requires a real preparation, it is therefore essential to be able to hold longer once in plac